Keys to Forgiveness #5

5.  Forget about who is right and who is wrong.

An essential rule to forgiveness is forgiving them.  Sometimes one of you have to take the upper hand and say I'm sorry to start creating peace.  It does not matter who is right or wrong, it is about communicating and expressing feelings appropriately and getting past the hurt.  I have talked before about keeping ammunition to use against your spouse at a later date.  This is done when you remember something they had done wrong, and eventhough you said you forgive them you bring it up again and again to hurt them. If you truly forgive them of the wrong they have done, you will not bring it up to hurt them later. This doesn't mean you forget it, but that you have let it go to allow the peace to be in your marriage.