Monday, March 21, 2011
Appropriate Times to Talk
Did you know that there are appropriate times to talk to your spouse? Let me start with an example, you have just balanced your checkbook and it is off by $100 or so, as soon as your spouse gets home from a long stressful day at work you hit them with the fact that you are $100 short in the account. Seeing that they have had a long day, they are not going to take it well. Another example is, you are tired and it is late at night, all you want to do is go to bed and your spouse decides to talk to you about something that has really been bothering them about you, all that results is you get defensive and upset and you go to bed angry. Talking late at night or right after someone comes home from a long day at work is not effective. You need to learn to read your spouse and choose times that are appropriate. After some time being married you will be able to read your spouse and learn when are good times. Wait until they have had time to settle down from work or a long day of kids. Never, ever talk when it is late on sensitive subjects, all that happens is you end up unhappy and possibly angry at each other. If it is that important to talk, schedule time, go for a drive, or go grab ice cream so you can talk quietly. Just remember think before you speak so you don't say things you regret, it is hard to take back words and they hurt most from those you love most.