Thursday, February 23, 2012

Are you a Physical Touch Love Language Person?

If you still are not sure if your love language is Physical Touch, ask yourself these questions:
-Do you love your spouse's hugs or would you rather have a love note?
-Do you like it when your spouse is affectionate and touches you or would you rather have your spouse help you out with the household chores?
-Do you love it when your spouse puts their arm around you or would you rather have them surprise you with a gift?
-Do you love to hold your spouse's hand or do you enjoy it when they give you a gift?
-Do you like your spouse to sit close to you or would you rather have them compliment you?
-Do you love to hug your spouse, or do you like it when they help you with the little things?
-Do you love it when your spouse rubs your back or do you like it when they show interest in the things you do?
-Do you love touching your spouse when they are close by or do you like it when they run an errand for you?

If your love language is Physical Touch, then you will have chosen the first statement each time.  Physical Touch is a beautiful love language as each one is.  The only way you can become good at them is through effort and practice.  Remember your marriage is worth it.  So take time to learn their love language, then put in the effort to follow through with their love language, it will bring both of you great happiness and joy in your marriage.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

How To: Physical Touch

If your spouses love language is Physical Touch here are some suggestions:

-As you walk around places, hold your spouses hand, ie the grocery store, the mall, the hardware store, etc.
-Go up to your spouse and give them a long sincere hug, let them know you love them, resist the temptation to head to the bedroom, they need to know you can give physical touch without it always leading to the bedroom.
-When your spouse is relaxing, go up to them and give them a shoulder massage to help relieve tension.
-Hold your spouses hand during prayer.
-Initiate sex by first giving your spouse a foot rub or back massage, then move to other areas as long as it brings pleasure to your spouse.
-Take a bath together.
-When taking a drive together (just the two of you) reach over and rub their leg, stomach, arm, be extra affectionate, but be aware that they are still driving so you don't want to distracte them too much.
-When family or friends are over touch your spouse in their presence, give them a hug, hold their hand.  This allows your spouse to realize that affection is not in private, there is appropriate public affection.  It is good for your children to see this as an example of how an affectionate relationship is.
-When your spouse arrives home meet them with a hug or a kiss or both.  Let them know they are the most important thing to you.  If you generally meet them at the door anyways, meet them in the driveway, go a step further if you can.
-When you have a quick minute, take your spouse into a quiet place, the bedroom, the closet, etc and give them a passionate kiss.  This shows them that affection does not always lead to the bedroom, but this can definitly get the fires started for later.
-When your spouse is cooking, or standing there, go up behind them and put your arms around them and tell them you think they are amazing.
-Go to a beautiful look out in town at night time and make out, just like the good old days before you were married.

These are just a few suggestions, trial and error works best with this, just think of ways to show them you love them through physical touch.

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Last Love Language-Physical Touch

I apologize that I am so back and forth on my blog, I hope to pick it up to one time a week.
The last Love Language is Physical Touch, this does not mean sex only.  Sex is a very important part of the love language but it also could mean: kisses, hugs, embraces, back rubs, foot rubs, brushing her hair, holding hands, touch of the shoulder when you pass by etc.   The Physical Touch love language is giving physical touch.  It is important to communicate what you do like and don't.  Maybe one spouse whos love language is Physical Touch loves it when they are given back rubs, but another spouse's whos love language is physical touch may not like back rubs, but loves to snuggle with their spouse.  The great thing is... it is touch, ALL marriages need some kind of touch, so as you touch your spouse you learn, and if they don't like it, do something else. 
Please remember that sex is very important if this is a primary love language.  If you have a hard time with it, you need to talk to your spouse and work out ways for sex to be a positive and enjoyable experience for both, and not just to do it because this is your spouse's primary love language.  Sex is meant to be enjoyed, trust me if you openly communicate it can be enjoyable for both.  Maybe every once in a while you agree to have sex because your spouse wants it,  but generally once you get started you both end up enjoying it.  Physical Touch is great, the more you touch, the more you learn and love.