If your spouse is an Acts of Service Love Language person, here are some suggestions:
-Find out what chore your spouse likes doing the least and commit to do that one chore so they don't have to do it
-Make a list of the requests your spouse has asked you to do, write them down, then pick one out per week to work on
-When you do an act of service for your spouse, like cleaning the bathroom, leave a note on the mirror expressing your love for them
-Make notes that state "today I will show my love to you by..." and fill it out, do the service and give to them
-When your spouse is away, do something special for them, paint a bedroom they have always wanted painted, put up new curtains, have the carpets cleaned, etc so when they come home they get an extra special surprise
-Don't view what your spouse asks you to do as a nag, but as a tag. They tagged you and they just need it done, so do it with a willing heart
-Do some big acts of service, like washing the car, cooking a meal, mowing the lawn and leave a sign: To my Honey, Love your (spouse)
-Ask your spouse things you can do daily to help out, the little things mean a lot
Here are some ideas to help you get going if your spouses love language is Acts of Service
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Love Language Acts of Service
First of all, sorry to all of you who take the time to read this, I have been letting life get away from me and I am sorry. I appreciate all of those who take the time to read this.
Back to the love language Acts of Service. This love language is exactly how it sounds, you do acts of service for the other person. If your spouses love language is acts of service then they will appreicate when you do the dishes, mow the lawn, vaccuum the house, pick up the dry cleaning etc. This is the love language where what you do matters. Many may think that it doesn't really matter if you do the dishes. But if your spouses primary love lanugage is acts of service, it means the world to them. My secondary love language is acts of service and I can tell you that when my husband helps out in the home it means so much to me and helps me to be a happier person. Remember even small acts of service help out, like remembering to take the garbage to the curb, changing the babies diaper, wiping clean the childrens faces, etc. If you are not sure what types of service mean the most to your spouse, ask them. What could it hurt you if it meant a lot to your spouse to make the bed everyday? You would be doing something they really appreciate. By doing your acts of service you help bring joy and love into your marriage. Remember the Savior showed us the great love of service when he washed his disciples feet, he did it out of love for him. If your spouses love language is service, then you find out what services they love to have done and you do it out of love for them. Remember this may take work, you may have to write a list of a service you could do each day of the week, your spouse will appreicate your effort and the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Back to the love language Acts of Service. This love language is exactly how it sounds, you do acts of service for the other person. If your spouses love language is acts of service then they will appreicate when you do the dishes, mow the lawn, vaccuum the house, pick up the dry cleaning etc. This is the love language where what you do matters. Many may think that it doesn't really matter if you do the dishes. But if your spouses primary love lanugage is acts of service, it means the world to them. My secondary love language is acts of service and I can tell you that when my husband helps out in the home it means so much to me and helps me to be a happier person. Remember even small acts of service help out, like remembering to take the garbage to the curb, changing the babies diaper, wiping clean the childrens faces, etc. If you are not sure what types of service mean the most to your spouse, ask them. What could it hurt you if it meant a lot to your spouse to make the bed everyday? You would be doing something they really appreciate. By doing your acts of service you help bring joy and love into your marriage. Remember the Savior showed us the great love of service when he washed his disciples feet, he did it out of love for him. If your spouses love language is service, then you find out what services they love to have done and you do it out of love for them. Remember this may take work, you may have to write a list of a service you could do each day of the week, your spouse will appreicate your effort and the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Are you a Receiving Gifts Person
Here are some questions to ask yourself to see if you are a receving gifts person:
-My spouses praise means a lot to me or I like it when he/she give me a gift I really like?
-I can count on my spouse to help out in the home or I love opening a gift from him/her?
-I love it when my spouse hugs me or I like it when he/she surprise me with a gift?
-Spending time with my spouse makes me happy or even the smallest gift from my spouse is important to me?
-I never get tired of my spouse praising me or I look forward to what he/she will give me for my birthday?
-My spouse doesn't interrupt me when I talk or I never tire of receiving gifts from my spouse?
These will give you an idea to determine if your love language is Receiving Gifts. Just remember if you have a spouse who's love language is Receiving Gifts, the thought counts a lot, they want to be thought of as you make a considerate purchase, or as you make them something.
**On a personal note, I am having a hard time keeping this up for the summer, it just seems like things are chaotic, so I will start back up in mid August (once the kids are in school and my schedule is back to semi-normal) with the last two love languages. I appreciate everyone's kind words and encouragment for my blog, this has been one of the hardest things I have done, but when even one person tells me they appreciate it, it makes it worthwhile.
-My spouses praise means a lot to me or I like it when he/she give me a gift I really like?
-I can count on my spouse to help out in the home or I love opening a gift from him/her?
-I love it when my spouse hugs me or I like it when he/she surprise me with a gift?
-Spending time with my spouse makes me happy or even the smallest gift from my spouse is important to me?
-I never get tired of my spouse praising me or I look forward to what he/she will give me for my birthday?
-My spouse doesn't interrupt me when I talk or I never tire of receiving gifts from my spouse?
These will give you an idea to determine if your love language is Receiving Gifts. Just remember if you have a spouse who's love language is Receiving Gifts, the thought counts a lot, they want to be thought of as you make a considerate purchase, or as you make them something.
**On a personal note, I am having a hard time keeping this up for the summer, it just seems like things are chaotic, so I will start back up in mid August (once the kids are in school and my schedule is back to semi-normal) with the last two love languages. I appreciate everyone's kind words and encouragment for my blog, this has been one of the hardest things I have done, but when even one person tells me they appreciate it, it makes it worthwhile.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
How To: Receiving Gifts
Here are some suggestions for you if your spouse's love language is Receiving Gifts:
-Give your spouse a gift in the morning, ie, their favorite candy, send them a gift in the afternoon, ie, balloons or flowers, and bring them a gift home in the evening, ie, a favorite shirt or book
-Give them one gift a day for a week
-When you are out walking around, look around you, do you see a beautiful flower you could bring home for your spouse, or do you see a great walking stick they may enjoy
-Make a handmade gift for your spouse. What if you feel you are not good at making anything? Then take a class on how to make something your spouse would enjoy, they will treasure the gift for a long time because you made it
-Keep a notebook or on your cell phone make a list of gift ideas. Everytime your spouse says "I would like that", write it down, then you will always have ideas of things they like
-If you still don't have ideas what to get your spouse, ask a friend or a family member who knows them well
-Offer the gift of self, tell them you will be there for an event they have that month. Even if it is not something you will enjoy, enjoy it because you are giving them the gift of self and it fills their love tank
-Give them a book and read it yourself so you have something you can discuss together. You can even rotate books on topics of things you are both interested in
-Give to your spouse's favorite charity in honor of them and ask the charity to send a card informing your spouse of what you have done
-Give a living gift, ie, a tree or flowering shrub. Go help your spouse plant it, it will be a gift that last a long time
Just remember when you give the gift, it is the thought that truly counts, because they will look at that gift and rememeber you were thinking of them.
-Give your spouse a gift in the morning, ie, their favorite candy, send them a gift in the afternoon, ie, balloons or flowers, and bring them a gift home in the evening, ie, a favorite shirt or book
-Give them one gift a day for a week
-When you are out walking around, look around you, do you see a beautiful flower you could bring home for your spouse, or do you see a great walking stick they may enjoy
-Make a handmade gift for your spouse. What if you feel you are not good at making anything? Then take a class on how to make something your spouse would enjoy, they will treasure the gift for a long time because you made it
-Keep a notebook or on your cell phone make a list of gift ideas. Everytime your spouse says "I would like that", write it down, then you will always have ideas of things they like
-If you still don't have ideas what to get your spouse, ask a friend or a family member who knows them well
-Offer the gift of self, tell them you will be there for an event they have that month. Even if it is not something you will enjoy, enjoy it because you are giving them the gift of self and it fills their love tank
-Give them a book and read it yourself so you have something you can discuss together. You can even rotate books on topics of things you are both interested in
-Give to your spouse's favorite charity in honor of them and ask the charity to send a card informing your spouse of what you have done
-Give a living gift, ie, a tree or flowering shrub. Go help your spouse plant it, it will be a gift that last a long time
Just remember when you give the gift, it is the thought that truly counts, because they will look at that gift and rememeber you were thinking of them.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Love Language Recieving Gifts
A gift is something you can hold and look at and realize that someone was thinking of you, that is why they gave it to you. A true gift doesn't always have to cost money, but it needs to be something you give because you care and love for that person. Gifts can be a card you make, wildflowers you pick, or something you saw in the store that would be just right for that person. A person who's love language is Receiving Gifts is generally someone who is enthusiastic when gifts are given, they are also someone who remembers the gifts because it was important to them. Also in Receiving Gifts an important part of the love language is the gift of your presence, this is where you are there for the person at times of crisis, or if they just need you there by their side through difficult times.
What if you are a saver and have a hard time spending money? If your spouses true love language is Receiving Gifts you need to realize your investment is in your marriage. If that is how they get their love tank full, then you do need to spend some money and get them things that are thoughtful; or if things are tight, be creative, you can give gifts without spending money.
Remember in all this that your marriage is the most important thing, so it is worth the financial and time investment.
What if you are a saver and have a hard time spending money? If your spouses true love language is Receiving Gifts you need to realize your investment is in your marriage. If that is how they get their love tank full, then you do need to spend some money and get them things that are thoughtful; or if things are tight, be creative, you can give gifts without spending money.
Remember in all this that your marriage is the most important thing, so it is worth the financial and time investment.
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Summer is Crazy
I am so sorry I have been very inconsistant lately, summer is taking me more for a loop than I realized it would. I will get back to the last three love languages starting July 11. I am sorry again for being so inconsistant.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Are You A Quality Time Person?
Here are questions to figure out if one of you are a Quality Time person:
-Do you like to be alone with your spouse, or do you like it when your spouse cleans your car?
-Do you like taking trips with your spouse, or do you enjoy receiving a gift from them?
-Do you being with your spouse no matter what they are doing, or do you like it when they give you a compliment?
-Do you like hanging out with your spouse, or do you like it when they give you a massage?
-Do you like it when your spouse supports you or do you like it when they kiss you?
-Do you like it when your spouse listens and talks to you or do you like it when they tell you you look good?
-Do you like having your spouse's undivideded attention or do you like it when they help you clean the house?
These are a few questions you can ask each other to get a feel of what love language you are. Also keeping a list of things you do that make your spouse happy helps you determine the love language, because there would generally be a pattern of your spouse liking compliments, or spending time with you, etc.
-Do you like to be alone with your spouse, or do you like it when your spouse cleans your car?
-Do you like taking trips with your spouse, or do you enjoy receiving a gift from them?
-Do you being with your spouse no matter what they are doing, or do you like it when they give you a compliment?
-Do you like hanging out with your spouse, or do you like it when they give you a massage?
-Do you like it when your spouse supports you or do you like it when they kiss you?
-Do you like it when your spouse listens and talks to you or do you like it when they tell you you look good?
-Do you like having your spouse's undivideded attention or do you like it when they help you clean the house?
These are a few questions you can ask each other to get a feel of what love language you are. Also keeping a list of things you do that make your spouse happy helps you determine the love language, because there would generally be a pattern of your spouse liking compliments, or spending time with you, etc.
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