Here are some questions to ask yourself to see if you are a receving gifts person:
-My spouses praise means a lot to me or I like it when he/she give me a gift I really like?
-I can count on my spouse to help out in the home or I love opening a gift from him/her?
-I love it when my spouse hugs me or I like it when he/she surprise me with a gift?
-Spending time with my spouse makes me happy or even the smallest gift from my spouse is important to me?
-I never get tired of my spouse praising me or I look forward to what he/she will give me for my birthday?
-My spouse doesn't interrupt me when I talk or I never tire of receiving gifts from my spouse?
These will give you an idea to determine if your love language is Receiving Gifts. Just remember if you have a spouse who's love language is Receiving Gifts, the thought counts a lot, they want to be thought of as you make a considerate purchase, or as you make them something.
**On a personal note, I am having a hard time keeping this up for the summer, it just seems like things are chaotic, so I will start back up in mid August (once the kids are in school and my schedule is back to semi-normal) with the last two love languages. I appreciate everyone's kind words and encouragment for my blog, this has been one of the hardest things I have done, but when even one person tells me they appreciate it, it makes it worthwhile.
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Thursday, July 14, 2011
How To: Receiving Gifts
Here are some suggestions for you if your spouse's love language is Receiving Gifts:
-Give your spouse a gift in the morning, ie, their favorite candy, send them a gift in the afternoon, ie, balloons or flowers, and bring them a gift home in the evening, ie, a favorite shirt or book
-Give them one gift a day for a week
-When you are out walking around, look around you, do you see a beautiful flower you could bring home for your spouse, or do you see a great walking stick they may enjoy
-Make a handmade gift for your spouse. What if you feel you are not good at making anything? Then take a class on how to make something your spouse would enjoy, they will treasure the gift for a long time because you made it
-Keep a notebook or on your cell phone make a list of gift ideas. Everytime your spouse says "I would like that", write it down, then you will always have ideas of things they like
-If you still don't have ideas what to get your spouse, ask a friend or a family member who knows them well
-Offer the gift of self, tell them you will be there for an event they have that month. Even if it is not something you will enjoy, enjoy it because you are giving them the gift of self and it fills their love tank
-Give them a book and read it yourself so you have something you can discuss together. You can even rotate books on topics of things you are both interested in
-Give to your spouse's favorite charity in honor of them and ask the charity to send a card informing your spouse of what you have done
-Give a living gift, ie, a tree or flowering shrub. Go help your spouse plant it, it will be a gift that last a long time
Just remember when you give the gift, it is the thought that truly counts, because they will look at that gift and rememeber you were thinking of them.
-Give your spouse a gift in the morning, ie, their favorite candy, send them a gift in the afternoon, ie, balloons or flowers, and bring them a gift home in the evening, ie, a favorite shirt or book
-Give them one gift a day for a week
-When you are out walking around, look around you, do you see a beautiful flower you could bring home for your spouse, or do you see a great walking stick they may enjoy
-Make a handmade gift for your spouse. What if you feel you are not good at making anything? Then take a class on how to make something your spouse would enjoy, they will treasure the gift for a long time because you made it
-Keep a notebook or on your cell phone make a list of gift ideas. Everytime your spouse says "I would like that", write it down, then you will always have ideas of things they like
-If you still don't have ideas what to get your spouse, ask a friend or a family member who knows them well
-Offer the gift of self, tell them you will be there for an event they have that month. Even if it is not something you will enjoy, enjoy it because you are giving them the gift of self and it fills their love tank
-Give them a book and read it yourself so you have something you can discuss together. You can even rotate books on topics of things you are both interested in
-Give to your spouse's favorite charity in honor of them and ask the charity to send a card informing your spouse of what you have done
-Give a living gift, ie, a tree or flowering shrub. Go help your spouse plant it, it will be a gift that last a long time
Just remember when you give the gift, it is the thought that truly counts, because they will look at that gift and rememeber you were thinking of them.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Love Language Recieving Gifts
A gift is something you can hold and look at and realize that someone was thinking of you, that is why they gave it to you. A true gift doesn't always have to cost money, but it needs to be something you give because you care and love for that person. Gifts can be a card you make, wildflowers you pick, or something you saw in the store that would be just right for that person. A person who's love language is Receiving Gifts is generally someone who is enthusiastic when gifts are given, they are also someone who remembers the gifts because it was important to them. Also in Receiving Gifts an important part of the love language is the gift of your presence, this is where you are there for the person at times of crisis, or if they just need you there by their side through difficult times.
What if you are a saver and have a hard time spending money? If your spouses true love language is Receiving Gifts you need to realize your investment is in your marriage. If that is how they get their love tank full, then you do need to spend some money and get them things that are thoughtful; or if things are tight, be creative, you can give gifts without spending money.
Remember in all this that your marriage is the most important thing, so it is worth the financial and time investment.
What if you are a saver and have a hard time spending money? If your spouses true love language is Receiving Gifts you need to realize your investment is in your marriage. If that is how they get their love tank full, then you do need to spend some money and get them things that are thoughtful; or if things are tight, be creative, you can give gifts without spending money.
Remember in all this that your marriage is the most important thing, so it is worth the financial and time investment.
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Summer is Crazy
I am so sorry I have been very inconsistant lately, summer is taking me more for a loop than I realized it would. I will get back to the last three love languages starting July 11. I am sorry again for being so inconsistant.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Are You A Quality Time Person?
Here are questions to figure out if one of you are a Quality Time person:
-Do you like to be alone with your spouse, or do you like it when your spouse cleans your car?
-Do you like taking trips with your spouse, or do you enjoy receiving a gift from them?
-Do you being with your spouse no matter what they are doing, or do you like it when they give you a compliment?
-Do you like hanging out with your spouse, or do you like it when they give you a massage?
-Do you like it when your spouse supports you or do you like it when they kiss you?
-Do you like it when your spouse listens and talks to you or do you like it when they tell you you look good?
-Do you like having your spouse's undivideded attention or do you like it when they help you clean the house?
These are a few questions you can ask each other to get a feel of what love language you are. Also keeping a list of things you do that make your spouse happy helps you determine the love language, because there would generally be a pattern of your spouse liking compliments, or spending time with you, etc.
-Do you like to be alone with your spouse, or do you like it when your spouse cleans your car?
-Do you like taking trips with your spouse, or do you enjoy receiving a gift from them?
-Do you being with your spouse no matter what they are doing, or do you like it when they give you a compliment?
-Do you like hanging out with your spouse, or do you like it when they give you a massage?
-Do you like it when your spouse supports you or do you like it when they kiss you?
-Do you like it when your spouse listens and talks to you or do you like it when they tell you you look good?
-Do you like having your spouse's undivideded attention or do you like it when they help you clean the house?
These are a few questions you can ask each other to get a feel of what love language you are. Also keeping a list of things you do that make your spouse happy helps you determine the love language, because there would generally be a pattern of your spouse liking compliments, or spending time with you, etc.
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Happy Belated Fathers Day
I know I am behind for Fathers Day, but I realize it would be unjust of me if I do not pay tribute to the greatest two men I know, my husband and my father.
First, Happy Fathers Day to my husband who makes this life worth everything. He is a man that brings me constant joy and happiness. He is a man that is patient, kind and loving to me. He is a man that helps me see my potential and belives in me and all I can achieve. He is a man who truly belives I am beautiful and never stops telling me. He is a man, that when my moody days come, which have been frequent lately, he bears it all with patience and love and tries to help me get through it. He is a man of faith, who follows God and serves him diligently. He is a man that won my heart 18 years ago and I am grateful for it everyday. He is the man that gave me four beautiful and amazing children who are the joy of my life. I love you dearly Jason, thank you for all you are to me and for loving me always.
Second, to my Dad, Happy Fathers Day, he is a man that sets the example always. He worked diligently to always provide for our family. He would get us kids up in the morning, get us ready for school, make a homemade breakfast from scratch, send us off to school, go to work, then come home and help us with homework or dinner, or both and then he would help get us ready for bed. He would do stuff around the house constantly and when he asked us to help him, you knew that he would be working too. He is a man that has beared patiently and lovingly the trial of a wife who has been sick for 34 years. He shows us the example of love by helping my mom, being patient with her, serving her and loving her. He was always there to support us and he supports his grandkids whenever he can. My Dad is my hero, he is my example, he is a man who has brought me great joy in life for the unconditional love he has always given me and for his example of faith and love to our Heavenly Father. Thank you Dad for all you have done, I love you.
First, Happy Fathers Day to my husband who makes this life worth everything. He is a man that brings me constant joy and happiness. He is a man that is patient, kind and loving to me. He is a man that helps me see my potential and belives in me and all I can achieve. He is a man who truly belives I am beautiful and never stops telling me. He is a man, that when my moody days come, which have been frequent lately, he bears it all with patience and love and tries to help me get through it. He is a man of faith, who follows God and serves him diligently. He is a man that won my heart 18 years ago and I am grateful for it everyday. He is the man that gave me four beautiful and amazing children who are the joy of my life. I love you dearly Jason, thank you for all you are to me and for loving me always.
Second, to my Dad, Happy Fathers Day, he is a man that sets the example always. He worked diligently to always provide for our family. He would get us kids up in the morning, get us ready for school, make a homemade breakfast from scratch, send us off to school, go to work, then come home and help us with homework or dinner, or both and then he would help get us ready for bed. He would do stuff around the house constantly and when he asked us to help him, you knew that he would be working too. He is a man that has beared patiently and lovingly the trial of a wife who has been sick for 34 years. He shows us the example of love by helping my mom, being patient with her, serving her and loving her. He was always there to support us and he supports his grandkids whenever he can. My Dad is my hero, he is my example, he is a man who has brought me great joy in life for the unconditional love he has always given me and for his example of faith and love to our Heavenly Father. Thank you Dad for all you have done, I love you.
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
How to Quality Time
So if you or your spouse are a Quality Time person, here are some suggestions:
-Sit down and talk to your spouse each night, that means tv off, and talk about your day, desires, hopes, etc
-Take a vacation with your spouse, just you and them enjoying one on one time
-When you go out to dinner, pick a place that has a nice atmosphere, a place that isn't so noisy so you can talk to each other
-Take a walk down memory lane and go to where your spouse grew up and find out about their childhood
-Go bike riding together, or running together, or swimming together
-Sit and watch your spouses favorite sport or tv show with them, even though it may not be your favorite thing to watch, it's about doing things together; you both give a little
-If you can't take a vacation together, get away for a weekend
-Grab your laptop and watch a movie on the trampoline with some popcorn
-Just get out and enjoy some one on one time
-Sit down and talk to your spouse each night, that means tv off, and talk about your day, desires, hopes, etc
-Take a vacation with your spouse, just you and them enjoying one on one time
-When you go out to dinner, pick a place that has a nice atmosphere, a place that isn't so noisy so you can talk to each other
-Take a walk down memory lane and go to where your spouse grew up and find out about their childhood
-Go bike riding together, or running together, or swimming together
-Sit and watch your spouses favorite sport or tv show with them, even though it may not be your favorite thing to watch, it's about doing things together; you both give a little
-If you can't take a vacation together, get away for a weekend
-Grab your laptop and watch a movie on the trampoline with some popcorn
-Just get out and enjoy some one on one time
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